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Happiness
matters! This is not just a clever title to a newsletter.
It is a statement of fact. Recently researchers reviewed
more than 225 papers and 293 surveys comprising almost 300,000
people to determine the benefits, or consequences of
happiness. The found that happiness matters. Here is what
they found:
Happy
people are more successful than their less happy peers.
They are
more productive at work and are more creative.
Happy
people cope better with stress and trauma.
Make
more money and have superior jobs.
Are more
active & confident, and better negotiators.
Are more
likely to marry and have fulfilling marriages, and less likely to
divorce.
Are more
likeable and have more friends and better social support.
Have
stronger immune systems, are physically healthier, and live
longer.
Are more
helpful and philanthropic.
If there is one thing you could do in 2009 that
would make a significant difference in your life, it would be to
learn how to be happier and start to experience all of the
benefits of being happy.
HAPPINESS MATTERS!
Kirk
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Are New Year's Resolutions Overrated?
As
you settle into the New Year (and you can finally write 2009
without using an '8') it is as if those great holiday
celebrations are a distant memory along with any resolution you
made for the New Year. Congrats to those who can still remember
their resolution and even more props to those who are still on
track to keep their resolution. Contemplating positive change can
be energizing and refreshing. If you are like most people,
contemplating a change is quite different than making a change.
If you are depending on will power alone to reach your goals you
may be in for a battle. Will power alone is seldom enough. There
needs to be something more.
There is an easy and much more elegant solution to experience
positive change than making a New Year's resolution. I call it a
New Day's resolution! I am sure you were able to keep your
resolution for at least 24 hours! Why not harness the power you
had for that one day and only make a resolution for a single day.
For instance, if you want to lose weight you could make a 24 hour
resolution to only eat salads and vegetables. Most of us can do
that for at least one day! If you make a New Day's resolution and
don't accomplish it, don't worry. Set the same resolution for the
next day.
I call this New Day's resolution a Daily Intention and recommend
you create it in the form of a "Today I will..."
statement. You see, intention is much more powerful than a desire
or a want. Intention aligns both the conscious and the
subconscious empowering you with strength you may not have
experienced before.
Perhaps your goal is to spend less. Your New Day's resolution can
be stated like this, "Today I will not spend more than $10
total!" If you intend to lose weight why not start with a
Daily Intention like this, "Today I will only drink non-carbonated
drinks." I know you can do that for at least one day.
Once you get the hang of a Daily Intention you can also transform
your life in other ways as well. For instance, you can be happy
by setting a positive Daily Intention such as "Today I will
be kind and welcoming to everyone I encounter." Or,
"Today I will not take offense to anything anyone
says." With some creativity and insight you can literally
transform your life from what you are experiencing today to
experiencing a life filled with happiness, peace and fulfillment.
Setting a Daily Intention requires only two things, intent and a
willingness to set a New Day's resolution. A resolution that
really works!
For tips and advice on how to be happy no matter what visit The
Happiness Matters Blog by clicking here.
-Kirk Wilkinson
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LuCysMiLeS - By Diane Lauzon
Diane sends out a new and
inspiring LuCysMiLeS everyday. I will feature one here each
month. See below how you can be uplifted everyday as well.
"The easy
way to getting what you want, is loving what you
have"
-LoVe Di
It's A Wonderful Life
It seems as though after the holidays, there is a lot more
energy that goes
into thinking about where we are, and what we have endured
over the past year. Moreover, a bit of stress evaluating all that
we
wish to change.
Our thoughts go to resolutions to set in place, as soon as the
clock struck twelve on December 31st- ringing in the new year;
and a whole new wonderful life.
We are sure that whatever habits, unfortunate circumstances, or
less than favorable situations took our energy the year prior, we
can stop drop and roll out a whole new way of being,
now that the new year is upon us.
If you are anything like me, the more energy I put on trying to
close the door of the Ghosts of year's past, the less likely it
is that they go away.
A new year is a great way to start new goals, and set a new
vision for ourselves; however, we don't have to feel that we must
throw away all that we have taken with us to this point, as we
are who and where we are because of everything we are, it doesn't
matter the year, month and date.
That doesn't go away.
This year coming can and will be a wonderful life, but even more
so, if we can just carry with us what already is a wonderful
life, right now.
We don't have to change all of our ways in order to grow-
just be ourselves, be with and do what we love, and cherish every
moment as a new moment to shine even brighter than the moment
before.
We don't need a whole new year to start a whole new wonderful
life.
We just need to believe life is beautiful, all year round!
LoVeLuCysMiLeS
Have LuCysMiLes delivered to your inbox everyday
by sending a message to Diane at lucysmiles@heartoflife.biz
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When Your Children Don't Listen- By Kimberly
Watt
As my daughter is
getting older she wants to make more decisions on her own. I
would love to have her stay young but I have to realize that she
is getting older as much as I don't want her to! In one way it's
great because we can do more and talk about more grown -up
things, but then I realize how fast time goes and one day she
will be all grown up and on her own. Time goes by to fast. It
seems like it was yesterday that it was just her and I. Now, she
has friends and those baby moments are just memories. I don't
want to lose one single moment. The reality is she is growing up
and I have to let her.
I can remember being her age, both the good and the bad. She is
very independent and knows what she wants. I've always said she's
an old lady in a little girl's body! She takes gymnastics six
days a week and two of those days are in the morning before school.
With all of that, she still maintains all A's. When I ask her if
it's too much or if she wants to do something else, she looks at
me and says, "No this is what I love to do."
She's determined, driven, compassionate, and independent and
is a leader even at age eight. Yes, she is still my baby and its
my job as a mom to guide her and be the parent. But I have to let
her learn some lessons on her own as much as I can. As an adult
or even as a teenager, I want her to be able to make her own
choices and not have someone else telling her what to do. Let's
face it, if children don't learn at a young age how to make
choices and experience the negative and positive consequences,
then when we are not around they will just look for someone else
to tell them what to do.
It's better for her to learn life lessons on things that might be
a big deal to her now, when the consequences are not as severe as
decisions she will make later in life. For example, my
daughter didn't want to wear her hat to school today. We were
experiencing a winter storm warning and it was literally too cold
to go without a hat. I could of argued with her or demanded that
she wear it or I could let her make her won decision. If she is
cold and wishes she had a hat the lesson will be more powerful
and poignant than if I had made the decision for her.
Likewise, if she forgets her school work or forgets to do
homework I do not take it up to school for her nor do I nag her
to get it done. It's not my responsibility nor are the
consequences mine either. I will help her if she asks me but she
has to learn responsibility and to be accountable. It's a big
deal to a third grader not to have her homework done and have to
explain it to her teacher. I would rather she learn these lessons
at eight than when she is 17 years old.
In the not too distant future there will be a time when I will
not be there and she will be on her own to make decisions that
could affect the rest of her life. She is going to be faced with
sex, drugs, alcohol or the situation where someone has been
drinking and wants to drive her home. Those are the times I want
her to know how to make the right decisions because her life and
perhaps the lives of others will depend on it. Life is all about
these kinds of lessons. To some degree I understand that it is
natural to want to protect your children. But we must resist the
temptation to bail our kids out of every situation. It ends up
hurting the child in the long run. When you bail out your
children it is harder for them to learn for themselves thinking
they can say or do anything they want no matter who it hurts. As
an adult the consequences are more serious and so learning to
make decisions and experience the consequences is much easier as
a child.
As for Makenna, I need to be more patient and let her continue to
let her grow into the beautiful girl letting her make as many
decisions on her own that are appropriate and necessary without
having to be in complete control of her. At the end of the day
parenting is more about teaching your children to act, not acting
for them.
Kim Watt is a Professional Speaker/Life Coach/Business
Developer. For more information, please visit her website
at www.kimberlywatt.com or email her at Kim@kimberlywatt.com.
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